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2015 New Years Resolutions Goals Plan Path Journey

  • 2015 New Years Resolutions Goals Plan Path JourneyWe all know that resolutions are rarely successful. Goals are great but must be outlined then draw and quarterly with little give.  Plans are just dreams that have not become goals.  Path is the road to walk, but the journey is how we walk the path.  I want 2015 to be an amazing journey where I can finally get out of the desert.  Ever feel like the Israelities in your life wandering around the desert for forty years? I am not forty, though my hair says, I could be fifty or sixty and have only been suck for the last three years.  I realized through many closed doors and much prayer that I have to learn to be content with what I am blessed with.  I have a job that I am good at, but I stopped taking the initiative and lost the drive to go the extra mile, but just in the last few weeks God has opened my eyes to see that I have amazing coworker who are becoming friends, and personally, I just want to be a better Mom, and get my ab muscle back :).  Last year, I learned that I cannot be both mom and dad filling in for their dad absents and no one can ever replace him or fill that void but God.  I can focus on our relationships and on our family relationship to help give them a solid foundation.  I want to spend 2015 learning what I can do to have a better attitude and mindset.  To not be that mom, about to rip her hair out in the middle of the Target line because her kids are running a muck or the disgruntled employee who does what is ask while bellyaching in the inside.  I read a book called QBQ several months ago, and then I begging God for an answer for a guide for 2015 this was my answer.  I rediscovered on New Years Day the author and his wife has also written a book called Parenting the QBQ way.  So, I rushed down to the Baptist Book Store and purchased their only copy.  My new motto “What is the QBQ?”.   Which stands for the Question Behind the Questions, both books talk about IQ andQBQ.  An IQ is the incorrect question and theQBQ question behind the question being the better question to ask.  IQ start with why, what, who and general use you, where aQBQ contains anI and an action.   It is a retraining of yourself to get go of what is ready done (good, bad, or ugly) and focusing on what you yourself can do moving forward.Motto: QBQ
    Bible Versus:

    • Psalms 46:10aBe still, and know that I am God
    • Jeremiah 29:11For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope
    • Matthew 7:7-8Ask, and It will be given to you: seek, and your will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.   For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.
    • Proverbs 31: This is the kind of woman, I want to be

Workouts: Five Minutes Abs – daily
Tiny House:  I will have the trailer and shell built by the end of 2015, but I am going to work super hard on having in complete
Massage: Complete my freshman term

What does your 2015 journey look like?

Add a comment January 3, 2015

Vaccinations

Vaccinations

I have been reading this fascinating book about vaccinations. I have not finished it so I have not yet done my due diligence, so I have not made an opinion on the book but it has definitely kept my interest. I am not here to preach yay or nay, that is not my decision to make but your. I just encourage you to do your own research and decide yourself. I have never been one to let anyone tell me what to do without first looking into it myself. Honestly, the arguments on either side are very influential. Look for good strong reliable information, unbiased information (or know to weed the bias out), talk with your doctor, review both sides, and pray before making your decisions. Take notes in your research and write down why you made your decision because their are going to people on both side trying to change your mind. But, remember, you are going to be you family’s best advocate and you can only make the best decision you can with the information we have today.

Add a comment November 10, 2014

Bad to Better

Yesterday, started out badly, mainly because I did not got to bed early enough the night before. Then the arguing started about wearing weather appropriate clothes. Then word of my third rejection and that then the tears started and battle not to let them fall. Then, I talked with a friend and expressed all my feeling about the day and this stupid crazy school girl crush I have. Which I am guess is driving to roller coaster of emotion, because I am 32 and happy being a single mom. Why do I have this crush? I digress, but I felt loads better after my confession and my day improved. I even worked on my RV living plan.

This morning Bible versus was:

Galatians 1:10 For do I now persuade men or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still please men, I would not be a bondservant of Christ.

Wow…I have to stop trying to impress others and just focus on God. God knows what the plans are for my life and my hearts desires and He will bring them to pass in His time not mine.

Add a comment November 4, 2014

The Middle of the Bed

The hardest and greatest thing about being a single parent is sleeping in the middle of the bed alone. Have you ever had that feeling then you slide into the middle of the bed, cool fresh sheets gliding across your skin then stretching your arms across the bed breathing in a deep since of peace? Or, crawling into bed so tired and exhausted that life has slapped you silly with cold sheets amplify emptiness, knowing life could have been different if only you might have someone to share life with.

Sleeping alone in the middle of the bed is a freedom I have never felt elsewhere, and then other times it is the elephant sitting on my chest. Then the weight of every decision, I make will effect my munchkins and their future is mine alone. The weight seems unbearable. I pray that I am a strong enough mom to keep my munchkins from becoming a statistic of drugs, violence, gangs, and no faith because their dad chooses not to be a part of their lives, and that I show them enough love and respect, and teach them knowledge, discipline,
and contentment that no matter what life hands them they can make lemonade with a smile.

Add a comment October 23, 2014

Bye-Bye TV

Bye-Bye TV

I have wanted to box up my television for at least a year, after reading several Amish romance books, and watched a documentary on this family who gave up all modern living.  It was very inspiring, but then I think what would to do without television.  We gave up cable almost four years ago for three reasons: one, I could not afford it, two, I was flipping through my DVR and all I saw was kids shows, and third, television is losing its morals quickly.  But, now, I even want to get rid of the television all together, because even without cable we spend way too much time watching TV.  My youngest child was walking around Home Depot saying, “I am a Vulcan, I have no emotions and I am from the plant Vulcan” while trying to make the hand signal.  I decided then that we watched too much television and definitely too much Star Trek.  Of course, we have watched all Star Trek The Next Generation (twice), Deep Space Nine, Voyager and recently Enterprise.  There are so many other things that we could be doing instead of sitting around watching television like riding bikes, board games, dinner at the table, laundry, etc.

We have been without the television about two weeks, and the evenings had been pretty easy with board games and bike riding.  This weekend was a little bit harder, we did spend sometime with at a friends, grilling, gardening and cleaning house but I did crave in and we watched a movie on the computer.  I still have not plugged the television back in, because I know we will be in the same spot again never turning the television off.  I believe my munchkins are having television withdraw also.  I took a nap today, and then I woke up my kids were watching Netflix on the computer.  I know, I started it then we watched that movie last night, but it just shows that we are addicted to television.  I fear what winter is going to be like without being able to get out of the house.

What are your thoughts on television?  The shows on television? How does television affect you and your family?

6 comments June 3, 2014

Keeping my mouth shut……

So,I am one to vent my frustrations to my family and close friends to both vent, see if my response was justified and to feel vindicated, but this is not the way to go about it. For one thing, it gives the person listening negative feelings toward the one your complaining about, which they will have to deal with, and second, tarnish they reputation, and the main reason, is it is unGodly. So, my selfishness to vent is adding to the frustration of my family and close friends and is separating me from God. Wow….putting it that way is eye opening. Monday, I received a call and email from two people that can push my button faster than anyone. I was so angry Monday evening that I called my dearest friend and sister who were both unavailable which was a God thing, I believe because it is like Joyce Meyer says go to the throne not the phone. So, what did I do, I went to the phone, and God said, nope not this time. So, when no one answered and I knew better than to reply to the email in angry, and journaled to God my frustrations, but I still did not feel better just empty. I still did not have peace about it, and then my friend returned my call, I let her about talk about her evening while waiting for my chance to jump in about why I had called. As my mouth was running over the story, God was talking to my heart saying I believe you know better, and I was like I just want to feel vindicated and my friend will vindicate me. Now, in hindsight, I should have just put it in God’s hands and been patient because God will give my vindication. So, today, I begged God to give me the strength to keep my mouth shut and to respond to the emails and call with the facts needed and nothing else.

Great minds talk about creative ideas, average minds talk with things, and small minds talk about people. Anonymous

I do not want to have a small mind for God, but a great mind for God.

2 comments June 12, 2013

Why do children not come with an instruction manuals

I always remember my mom saying, “I wish you came with an instruction manual” or “you do not come with an instruction manual” Now, after being a mom for a few years, I understand what my mom was saying. I too wish that sometimes children did come with an instruction manual but I probably would not follow it any way. I do listen to several Christian parenting podcast and am always reading Christian parenting books and listening friends and relatives experiences and of course reference my own upbringing as a guide to raise my children. I am far from super mom but I do my very best and love my children with all my heart.

I can say with great certainly that raising children is the greatest and hardest job that I have been blessed with.

1 comment June 18, 2012

Why, Why, Why

So, today on our way home, the munchkin would ask I question, that I would answer then ask why to the answer. In was in the fourth or fifth cycle of this that I got annoyed with the why, why, why, Mommy, that I realized why the why questions annoy me because I expect the person asking to already know the answer because general I ask a question only if I know all possible outcomes.

I have to say then a step back, breath, let go of my expectations and give glory to God, that is an amazing feeling.

The amazing blessing our children are and I love learned from them.

Add a comment June 13, 2012

One proud Mommy

My munchkin and I have been butting heads for the last few days, and yesterday, it came to a head then the word stupid was used several times at daycare a long with a flying chair.  So, today, then I dropped the munchkin off at daycare, they were told to apologize to the class and the scene that unfolded brought tears to my eyes.  I assumed one apology to the whole class would do, however, the munchkin went to every student in the class, touched their shoulder, looked at their face and said, “I am sorry” in the sweetest kindest voice.  There are twenty plus children in the class, now that took courage and strength.  I was a very proud Mommy today, and I learned a lesson in the courage to apologize.  I believe many of us believe apologizing in a sign of weakness or defect then it is really taking the time to validate the other person and letting them know that regardless of what happened (who was wrong or right) there feelings are important to you.  Wow….is all I can say.

Add a comment May 3, 2012

Joys are being a parent……

I love being a mommy.  It is the hardest most rewarding job, I believe I will ever have.  I am definitely not mother of the year, but I am not terrible.  I love my munchkins with all my heart and try very hard to make the best choices for their futures.  I try to teach by example instead of by my words.  I always hated my mom saying to me, “Do as I say not as I do.”  I have learned through the years that actions speak louder than words.  I am continually learning to be a better mom.  And, being a mom has taught me a little patience and understanding, and has softened my heart.  As Mommy’s day grows closer, I know that I am truly blessed.  Yes, my munchkins get on my nerves just as I get on their nerves, but every hugs or “I love you” or kiss makes it all worth it.  I would like to share some of my patience learning moments over the past few years.

 

2 comments April 26, 2012

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